📣 Curious Quotes from the Author
“Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment.”
“I am amazed by how many individuals mess up every new day with yesterday.”
“Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse's perspective. We must first learn what is important to our spouse. Only then can we give encouragement. With verbal encouragement, we are trying to communicate, "I know. I care. I am with you. How can I help?" We are trying to show that we believe in him and in his abilities. We are giving credit and praise.”
“People tend to criticize their spouse most loudly in the area where they themselves have the deepest emotional need.”
“Real love" - "This kind of love is emotional in nature but not obsessional. It is a love that unites reason and emotion. It involves an act of the will and requires discipline, and it recognizes the need for personal growth.”
“What we do for each other before marriage is no indication of what we will do after marriage.”
“Love doesn't keep a score of wrongs. Love doesn't bring up past failures. None of us is perfect. In marriage we do not always do the right thing. We have sometimes done and said hurtful things to our spouses. We cannot erase the past. We can only confess it and agree that it was wrong. We can ask for forgiveness and try to act differently in the future. Having confessed my failure and asked forgiveness, I can do nothing more to mitigate the hurt it may have caused my spouse. When I have been wronged by my spouse and she has painfully confessed it and requested forgiveness, I have the option of justice or forgiveness. If I choose justice and seek to pay her back or make her pay for her wrongdoing, I am making myself the judge and her the felon. Intimacy becomes impossible. If, however, I choose to forgive, intimacy can be restored. Forgiveness is the way of love.”
“For love, we will climb mountains, cross seas, traverse desert sands, and endure untold hardships. Without love, mountains become unclimbable, seas uncrossable, deserts unbearable, and hardships our lot in life.”
“The person who is "in-love" has the ilusion that his beloved is perfect.”
“Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. That is why solitary confinement is considered the cruelest of punishments.”
“Inside every child is an 'emotional rani's waiting to be filled with love. When a child really feels loved, he will develop normally but when the love tank is empty, the child will misbehave. Much of the misbehavior of children is motivated by the cravings of an empty 'love tank”
“The best thing we can do with the failures of the past is to let them be history.”
“The in-love experience does not focus on our own growth or on the growth and development of the other person. Rather, it gives us the sense that we have arrived and that we do not need further growth.”
“Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment. It is a choice to show mercy, not to hold the offense up against the offender. Forgiveness is an expression of love.”
“Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another, to know a love that grows out of reason and choice, not instinct. I need to be loved by someone who chooses to love me, who sees in me something worth loving. That kind of love requires effort and discipline. It is the choice to expend energy in an effort to benefit the other person, knowing that if his or her life is enriched by your effort, you too will find a sense of satisfaction—the satisfaction of having genuinely”
“Recent research has indicated that the average individual listens for only seventeen seconds before interrupting and interjecting his own ideas.”
📚 Cognition of the Book’s Big Idea
Today's married couples simply have issues because they have different ways of feeling and expressing love. Understanding each other's love languages can help you and your spouse communicate better in your relationship, which can enhance your emotional health.
Give your significant other the best gift ever to get them through difficult times.
What would be the ideal gift to give your significant other? It's not jewels, flowers, or a brand-new automobile, to give you an idea. It's the gift of self, which is just being there for your partner through good times and bad. Thus, it is crucial to just be there for someone during trying times, such as when they are pregnant or going through a job change. When things get hard, you'll be astonished at the difference you can make if you make a commitment to be there.
🤝Collaborative Insight for Techies
“People tend to criticize their spouse most loudly in the area where they themselves have the deepest emotional need.”
This is true. We all view our own relationships from our own lens. We need to feel needed and are satisficed only when our owns needs are met. But the beauty of a good relationship is one that works into a win/win situation for both persons in the relationships. When each other cares for the needs of the other, their need of fulfillment both get satisficed, and their love for each other grows.
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