Book Byte #206 "Daring Greatly" by Brené Brown
How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
📣 Curious Quotes from the Author
“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.”
“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”
“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren't always comfortable, but they're never weakness.”
“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.”
“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive.”
“When I look at narcissism through the vulnerability lens, I see the shame-based fear of being ordinary. I see the fear of never feeling extraordinary enough to be noticed, to be lovable, to belong, or to cultivate a sense of purpose.”
“What we know matters but who we are matters more.”
“The willingness to show up changes us, It makes us a little braver each time.”
“Numb the dark and you numb the light.”
“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage.”
“Connection is why we're here; it is what gives purpose and meaning to our lives. The power that connection holds in our lives was confirmed when the main concern about connection emerged as the fear of disconnection; the fear that something we have done or failed to do, something about who we are or where we come from, has made us unlovable and unworthy of connection.”
“Shame derives its power from being unspeakable.”
“Even to me the issue of "stay small, sweet, quiet, and modest" sounds like an outdated problem, but the truth is that women still run into those demands whenever we find and use our voices.”
“The real questions for parents should be: "Are you engaged? Are you paying attention?" If so, plan to make lots of mistakes and bad decisions. Imperfect parenting moments turn into gifts as our children watch us try to figure out what went wrong and how we can do better next time. The mandate is not to be perfect and raise happy children. Perfection doesn't exist, and I've found what makes children happy doesn't always prepare them to be courageous, engaged adults.”
“I only share when I have no unmet needs that I'm trying to fill. I firmly believe that being vulnerable with a larger audience is only a good idea if the healing is tied to the sharing, not to the expectations I might have for the response I get.”
📚 Cognition of the Book’s Big Idea
We must learn to love ourselves without conditions and to trust in our intrinsic worthiness while relating to friends, family, and coworkers if we want to live a life free of shame. We dare to be vulnerable in this way since rejection and failure cannot make us feel less worthy.
We may build stronger relationships with people and improve both our personal and professional lives by accepting our vulnerability, being open and involved, and putting ourselves out there. How does shame function? Shame is the fear of social isolation; harmless as it may be, it is human. Our contemporary culture is rife with shame, which feeds the dread of being unworthy and of never having enough. What is vulnerability, and how does it address the shame issue?
🤝Collaborative Insight for Techies
Shame is Fear of the Past. Anxiety is Fear of the Future. Fear is actually just Fear in the Present, and its usually the rarest form of fear itself.
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