Book Byte #307 "The Confidence Code" by Katty Kay
The Science and Art of Self-Assurance---What Women Should Know
📣 Curious Quotes from the Author
“Having talent isn’t merely about being competent; confidence is actually a part of that talent.”
“Simply put, a woman’s brain is not her friend when it comes to confidence. We think too much and we think about the wrong things. Thinking harder and harder and harder won’t solve our issues, though, it won’t make us more confident, and it most certainly freezes decision making, not to mention action. Remember, the female brain works differently from the male brain; we really do have more going on, we are more keenly aware of everything happening around us, and that all becomes part of our cognitive stew. Ruminating drains the confidence from us. Those negative thoughts, and nightmare scenarios masquerading as problem solving, spin on an endless loop. We render ourselves unable to be in the moment or to trust our instincts because we are captive to those distracting, destructive thoughts, which gradually squeeze all the spontaneity out of life and work. We have got to stop ruminating.”
“Confidence is the purity of action produced by a mind free of doubt.”
“The propensity to dwell on failure and mistakes, and an inability to shut out the outside world are, in his mind, the biggest psychological impediments for his female players, and they directly affect performance and confidence on the court.”
“If you choose not to act, you have little chance of success. What’s more, when you choose to act, you’re able to succeed more frequently than you think. How often in life do we avoid doing something because we think we’ll fail? Is failure really worse than doing nothing? And how often might we actually have triumphed if we had just decided to give it a try?”
“Confidence, ultimately, is the characteristic that distinguishes those who imagine from those who do.”
“Gaining confidence means getting outside your comfort zone, experiencing setbacks, and, with determination, picking yourself up again.”
📚 Cognition of the Book’s Big Idea
We may not realize how crucial confidence is, particularly in the workplace. Because of their genetic characteristics, upbringing, and the prejudices and judgments of society, women are frequently less self-assured than men. But if they want to, they may also teach themselves to be more self-assured.
Until Tomorrow,
Jason (Founder Club255)